Mindful Non-Orgasmic Sex

The energies of the boardroom have invaded the bedroom. Non-orgasmic sex can change that. Given the commotion of modern living — heavy on guilt and light on delight – it’s no wonder couples are yearning for meaningful intimacy and don’t always know where to turn. Could lovemaking without a goal in mind pave the way for sustaining relationships? Though I see that now, it wasn’t until I tasted true pleasure that I got it. My...

With a Name Like Tinamarie, You Think I Could Sing

My Motown twin (may she rest in peace) rocked the airwaves with her lyrics and mood music. Her bodacious tune, I Just Want to Be Your Lovergirl, released stuck (up) conventional restraints from places they had no business being. Those 70′s song Diva’s – Carol King, Teena Marie, Gloria Gaynor and the whole luscious posse of hip swaying vocalists – brought us ectasy in dance and song, and to this day, if I’m feeling down, music...

Your Secret Erotic Spiritual Self Beckons. Now What?

We grow up with mixed messages about sex. It doesn’t matter how many lovers we’ve bedded or how many wicked deeds we’ve committed in the pursuit of illuminating sexual awakening. Our secret erotic selves, through their sublime, hushed, hurried, languid, empowered and vulnerable natures, bring us to the edges of humanity’s comfort zones. Those who were raised in religious homes know this Gremlin even better than secularists. That is because the...

When God Created Sex, She Smiled

Sacred female sexuality, with its feelers in earth-based worship, meets resistance in dogmatic circles. The idea that woman with all her undulating curves and desires can cohabitate with formal religion creates waves of shock and awe shock, and conventional wounds taint or even forbid certain pleasures. To the most conservative believers, the Divine Feminine isn’t just an insult to established order: she’s blasphemous. “Goddess worship, even in...

What is Karezza? Non-Orgasmic Sex on Purpose

The energies of the boardroom have invaded the bedroom. What are you going to do about it? Given the commotion of modern living — too heavy on guilt and too light on delight – it’s no wonder couples are having non-orgasmic sex. Karezza is a loving way to build and sustain relationships. Though I see that now, I didn’t always get it. In fact, the first time I heard the term, I thought why bother? Then I realized that most of the sex...