Is the World ready for Sexy Feminists?

Women are starting to own their sexual power. Is the world ready for a future with sexy feminists? Years ago, I posted a playful heart-in-cheek article about the emerging post-feminist femme fatales (PFF) on a staunchly feminist website. A PFF, I wrote, was both an “accomplished woman in all political, social, environmental and economic arenas,” and an “enchantress.” Confident and graceful, funny and committed to social justice, she wore lingerie,...

Red Hot and Blue Sexual Freedom

Total sexual freedom – the idea that we can love and be loved in ways that don’t fit neatly in a normative box – is different from indiscriminate sex. From the outside looking in, this might be confused with promiscuity. What’s the difference? I believe promiscuity feeds into and manifests fears, limitations and restrictions. Sexual freedom is about courage. First of all, fear is a great teacher. And what we fear most about love and sexuality...

Your Secret Erotic Spiritual Self Beckons. Now What?

We grow up with mixed messages about sex. It doesn’t matter how many lovers we’ve bedded or how many wicked deeds we’ve committed in the pursuit of illuminating sexual awakening. Our secret erotic selves, through their sublime, hushed, hurried, languid, empowered and vulnerable natures, bring us to the edges of humanity’s comfort zones. Those who were raised in religious homes know this Gremlin even better than secularists. That is because the...

Merits and Morality of the Boob Tube | Ashley Madison Moments

Some relationships end without a proper start, leaving us with a memory of someone we wanted to know better, but didn’t.In my case, I met the one who got away in a class that required students to pair up for the duration of the semester.  Before I could say anything, this tall, lanky, blue-eyed boy with tawny hair slid into the seat next to mine, and from that day forward, we were a team.  From the start he liked me, and the attention was...

Humanity’s Oldest Known Sex Surgery

To snip or not to snip is at the center of a resurgent debate, but are we seeing the whole picture? Medical pros and cons are only part of the complexities surrounding this simple procedure, with ‘intactivists’ pitted against those in favor of the surgery for a variety of reasons including religious and medical. Having spent time on both sides of the fence, the truth is that data can be massaged for or against humanity’s oldest known sex...