The most powerful thing you can do NOW to feel alive ALWAYS

That you are universally skin-hungry and primal in your basic urges bears out in your conversations, the media obsessions with other people’s sex lives, and our ferocious reading of erotic, how-to sex books, even the collective gasp at Fifty Shades of Grey.  Harlequin-esque BDSM may be the gateway drug to fetishized sex in vanilla bedrooms… it could be the wake up call that erotica is a literary genre worth taking a private peek at…or it...

Your Vagina Isn’t Junk

Sometime between the birth of my first child & perimenopause, I missed the memo: Stupid Euphemisms for Vagina. I am stumped. When did we start calling our parts ‘junk’? In the irreverent voice of modern society, is adult potty talk masking self-hatred or just an attempt to find a cheap laugh and a decent orgasm? Motives don’t matter in the long run, at least not to my nether region. Yoni is very vocal about her preferences,...

Mindful Non-Orgasmic Sex

The energies of the boardroom have invaded the bedroom. Non-orgasmic sex can change that. Given the commotion of modern living — heavy on guilt and light on delight – it’s no wonder couples are yearning for meaningful intimacy and don’t always know where to turn. Could lovemaking without a goal in mind pave the way for sustaining relationships? Though I see that now, it wasn’t until I tasted true pleasure that I got it. My...

Red Hot and Blue Sexual Freedom

Total sexual freedom – the idea that we can love and be loved in ways that don’t fit neatly in a normative box – is different from indiscriminate sex. From the outside looking in, this might be confused with promiscuity. What’s the difference? I believe promiscuity feeds into and manifests fears, limitations and restrictions. Sexual freedom is about courage. First of all, fear is a great teacher. And what we fear most about love and sexuality...

7 Ways to Green Your Wedding

Greening your wedding is simple, chic and easy to do if you follow just a few of these suggestions. Making your day of love as green as possible without compromising on romance and style is within your eco-conscious reach. From mass weddings to intimate ceremonies in your own backyard, here are 7 ways to leave a smaller carbon footprint when you walk down the aisle together. If you are exchanging rings, consider giving heirloom jewels or ethically mined...