Thou Shalt Have Forbidden S-X

“In order for monogamy to work, it has to be ‘dirty.’ If the forbidden is what is exciting, we have to work hard to bring the taboo into our most intimate relationships. If transgression is so titillating, we have to learn to transgress where we’re most safe.” – Rabbi Irwin Kula (Yearnings: Embracing the Sacred Messiness of Life). Deliciously strong language coming from a spiritual leader makes some folks squirm, and it’s...

Sadder Because We Are ‘Neurotic and Self-Absorbed’?

If a man (of the cloth) can write, “women are sadder because deep down men are shallower” about his gender, what truth, if any, is there in such language? And do I as a woman have any business repeating his observations? Apparently not according to one male reader of that column, Mr. H., who ranted on about how sexist and childish the title was. Nevermind the content of the blog, the expressed convictions about gender issues and the need for...

Spiritual Eroticism and Sexual Wounds | Tantra Tuesday

Sacred sexuality doesn’t just belong to the realm of priests, pastors or prostitutes, nor is it only those elusive all-night orgasmic rituals from ancient civilizations chanting in hypnotic tongue. I do not know Sanskrit, practice Wicca, hold modern certifications bestowed upon me by others self-appointed to verify my ecstatic wantonness.  If I were alive at the birth of Tantra, only a faint cellular memory still pulses through my bones. Chances are,...