Mark insists that men don’t express ‘Erotic Fantasy ‘well; that the mere mention of sensuality their big brains to little mush. Laugh lines gives you an inside look into the fantasy centers of the Funny Man’s mind, and what he really finds most alluring about the female kind (and it’s not something you’ll commonly see in the latest fashion ad campaign).
You want to watch a man blush? Ask him what he finds most alluring about women, and why he likes certain, er, traits more. Many guys feel their brains turn to mush and be unable to articulate for a few moments. The reason is simple. You just activated their fantasy center. “Ohhh, if I had a set of <insert body part here> and could do <insert lascivious verb here>, unnngghhhh!!” Then they have to figure out how to turn their primal urges into seemingly intelligent discourse. Not an easy thing to do when your higher functioning head is being outscreamed by the little head. How to make it worse? Have a woman ask the questions. We (men) are programmed not to talk to a woman about such things. Especially one we don’t know. If a guy asks, we can get that “you know what I’m thinking” grin on our faces and start grunting.
One of the things I have learned in the last 35 years is that men do not express erotic or sexual fantasy well. Give a man a dozen porn movies to watch and he’ll tell you which scenes he liked. But ask him to describe it before seeing it and you’ll be inundated with “wellll” and “ummm” and “oh, I, uh” and no details. I have also learned that if a man CAN express a fantasy situation, with reasonable detail and relatively accurate timing, to a woman, she’s going to become curious. “Can he do what he says?” There’s a catch to that, too. He can’t come off sounding like a caveman. “Bonk on head, bend over, bang bang.” That isn’t going to work, any more than it would if you jumped in the sack and tried it. Express a fantasy that appeals to a woman as well as a man and you can end up with two people dry humping in their minds.
So what is the most alluring part of a woman? For me, it’s her mind. Not even I can evaluate the mind of a woman that thoroughly on a first viewing. However, because I’ve become older and more experienced at human observation, I can pick out the more likely candidates. It’s in the way she dresses, the way she walks, the way she sits, the way she smiles and moves. Confidence is one thing that will draw me in faster than fancy perfume or expensive makeup.
I found such a woman. Her confidence level was pretty low, but because our initial interactions were in a chat room, we got to know each others minds. It was a beautiful thing. When our physical attributes were revealed, neither of us cared where the extra pounds were. Or who had which parts succumbing to gravity more than others. Over the years we’ve been together, her confidence has grown exponentially. Sure, she still has her moments of “Am I Good Enough?”, but I try to gently remind her of her accomplishments.
Yes, I have intentionally avoided telling you what body part allures me. Because if I tell you, I’d be morally obligated to tell you what I’d want to do with it. Or them. Maybe in another post. Or five. With the appropriate NSFW label attached.
Guys, never forget that you need to find out as much as you can on your own about how her body works, to what stimulus it responds. Ladies, please, please, please, realize that there are a lot of guys who have the potential to become your greatest lover. They just need a little prompting from you.
Would I be happier with a woman that looks like Angelina? No. Because no matter who she was, she wouldn’t be my soulmate. Would it be fun to play with her? Possibly. Depends on her mind.
:: Photo credit: Fashionising.com, Elisabetta Canalis for Roberto Cavalli, Spring-Summer ad campaign
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