On Courtesans, Skin Hunger and Sexual Healing

Nowadays, to call oneself a courtesan seems almost blasphemous to the herstorical truth of what that once meant, considering the delight to which Hafiz hints. In this Persian sages words, though pleasure certainly appears had by shy men and women alike, emphasis on a woman’s poetic skills seems to have mesmerized as much as her maidenly form. When I read his work, unschooled as I am in Sufism, I can’t help but wonder what divine truths does Hafiz hide in the vernacular cloak of his poetry?

I almost imagine that the camel in Erik Almas‘ photograph is being gently led by a woman skilled in the art of love and the love of art. Am I romanticizing the life of the Courtesan as it once was? Perhaps, but that is because today’s standards almost exclusively emphasize sex for hire, not the gracious companionship of a woman of power and means.

One line in the poem – on women knowing touch – strikes me as particularly rich. Just how long has humanity been skin-hunger? Sexual healing has been needed a long time indeed…

And She Wrote Poems

Quietly

her fame spread,

that courtesan who few had heard of

a year

ago.

Shy men could with her what they could

with no one

else.

An women

too sought her breasts

and came to know how wonderful touch

could be.

And

she wrote poems

and left her eyes there for they were

what loved the

most.

Thursday is now poetry day for Modern Love, the juxtaposition of Eros, knowledge, soul and practicum. If you’d like to contribute an original poem or something you found in the nook of an old book, as I did this piece, send it to me at modernlovemuse at yahoo dot com.

Soulfully yours, Tinamarie

Tinamarie is an occasional poet and writer for several acclaimed websites. You can find her at twitter and Facebook, or send her a private message at modernlovemuse @ yahoo dot com.

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Tantra Tuesday | When God Created Sex, She Smiled | Sexis Magazine

sex, tantra, spirituality, sacred, dogma, religion

Sacred female sexuality, with its feelers in earth-based worship, meets resistance in dogmatic circles. The idea that woman with all her undulating curves and desires can cohabitate with formal religion creates waves of shock and awe shock, and conventional wounds taint or even forbid certain pleasures. To the most conservative believers, the Divine Feminine isn’t just an insult to established order: she’s blasphemous. Continue reading

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Non-Orgasmic Sex on Purpose?

spirituality, non-orgasmic sex, relationships, love, sexuality

“And is there anything you would withhold? Some day, all that you have shall be given. The trees give that they may live, for to withhold is to perish.” — Khalil Gibran

The first time I heard of slower, non-orgasmic sex as a guided experience rather than the ‘failed’ outcome of intercourse, a delicate light bulb flickered in my mind. On one hand, I imagined how intimacy would flourish if lovers shifted their intention from doing something to simply being together. Still, I had mixed feelings. It was just a bit off the wall, even for someone spiritually inclined as myself. Perhaps this resistance is why it took some gentle nudging from the universe before I would visit non-orgasmic sex. Continue reading

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Voyeur With a Conscious | On Erotic Art, Beauty and Love

 

Certain topics conjure up provocative assumptions, and erotica is one such subject; it has informed human sexuality for as long as we could string letters, stories and images together, generating tales of our most passionate selves. So when I was first asked to review sexualized art for a few different places, I found myself wondering: how could I – someone disinclined to thrust public criticism upon others – approach the task of without sacrificing certain core values? Continue reading

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What Does Light Talk About? | Rus Anson Photography

To those with the heart of a poet, our world can sometimes feel increasingly oppressive until we are reminded of simple miracles. When Catholism’s greatest theologian and poet, the Italian-born Thomas Aquinas wrote, he did so prolifically and with the uncanny ability to present the sublime in simplest of terms.

One year as a Catholic school girl and nine years as the wife of a devout worshipper wasn’t enough to convert me to his faith; nonetheless, lovers of poetry from all spiritual paths appreciate the timeless reverence of this Saint’s expanded repertoire of writings.

Rus Anson’s whimsical photography enchants me with a similar expansive eye towards the Incredible Lightness of Being. I’m captivated by the juxtaposition of a pious man born over 800 years ago with the fashionista lens of this modern artist who uses the canvas of nature to move our souls. Both the priest and the photographer remind me that we all blossom under the gentle touch of love.

What Does Light Talk About?

When you recognize her beauty,

the eye applauds, the heart stands in ovation.

and the tongue when she is near

is on its best behavior,

it speaks more like light.

What does light talk about?

I asked a plant that once.

It said, “I am not sure, but it makes me grow.”

- St. Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274)

Thursday is now poetry day for Modern Love, the juxtaposition of Eros, knowledge, soul and practicum. If you’d like to contribute an original poem or something you found in the nook of an old book, as I did this piece, send it to me at modernlovemuse at yahoo dot com.

Soulfully yours, Tinamarie

Tinamarie is an occasional poet and writer for several acclaimed websites. You can find her at twitter and Facebook, or send her a private message at modernlovemuse @ yahoo dot com.

©2010-2011 www.TinamarieBernard.com; PARTIAL reposts only permitted with link back to original article.

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Tantra Tuesday | Conscripting the Sacred Breast

breast, women, sacred, ancient, tantra, spirituality

My breasts became powerful before I knew what to do with their influence, the fullness and fecundity of their development occurring at a time before artificial enhancement was the norm. I angst long before their arrival, much like many young girls of my generation, though the worry I had was less to do with breasts in general — would they be big? Little? Squished together or droopy like the women in national geographic? — and everything to do with the result of contracting chicken pox just before puberty. Continue reading

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Humanity’s Oldest Known Sex Surgery

To snip or not to snip is at the center of a resurgent debate, but are we seeing the whole picture? Medical pros and cons are only part of the complexities surrounding this simple procedure, with ‘intactivists’ pitted against those in favor of the surgery for a variety of reasons including religious and medical. Having spent time on both sides of the fence, the truth is that data can be massaged for or against humanity’s oldest known sex surgery. Continue reading

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Sex with the Supernatural | ‘Dream Lovers’ by Kristina Wright

sex, supernatural, vampires, twilight, love, romance, ghost, eroticaIt’s confession time: I’ve not seen one Twilight movie nor read any of the books. It’s not that things that go hump in the night unaffect me, just that I prefer my supernatural fantasies to run amock more privately. Our collective fascination with the naughty bits of vampires, witches, succubi and such has haunted man(and women)kind since the advent of storytelling. Kristina Wright catapults upon our fascination with love bites in her collection of 17 lusty and sometimes disquieting tales of sex between humans and their other worldly lovers. Dream Lovers (Cleis Press, 2011) is an erotica lover’s erotica book: literary shorts crafted with bold creativity, impossible to put down until you’ve read every wicked encounter in these paranormal tales. Continue reading

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Indian Time | Anger Management the Antidote to Modern Living

Happiness, Anger, Indian Time, Slow Down, Gratitude

There’s nothing swithe about Mark’s keen observations about time and troubles. He meanders to the point, but that’s the goal afterall, especially when we all could use a little more ‘O’ in our…

One of my favorite pictures is of a clockface with the numbers in random order. The caption reads “Indian Time.” Five years ago, I wouldn’t have understood that. I do now. You hear it at powwows all the time. The flyers will say something like “Grand Entry at Noon”. Of course, you get there at 11 to get a good spot, ant the emcee comes on the PA and says something like, “Well, you all know how it is. We run on Indian time. We’ll get started here about 12:30, or so!” Continue reading

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The Earth My Own Body I Explored

“One night as I walked in the desert the mountains rode on my shoulders

And the sky became my heart, and the earth – my own body, I explored.

Every object began to wink at me, and Mira wisely calculated the situation, thinking: My charms must be at their height –

Now would be a good time to rush into His arms,

Maybe He won’t drop my so quick.”

These words and this image came to me separately, yet they fit together like Mirabai and her beloved. The poetress who lived five hundred years ago today is perhaps the most renowned female saint in India, and I’m told her songs are enjoyed by Hindus, Muslims and Sikhs alike. Her heart belonged to God, not man, and her convictions which included a fierce commitment to human rights were matched by a playful, sometimes penetrating wit.

Personally, I think she was an ecosexual long before that philosophy and the language of sustainable love were tapping lovers on the shoulders to say, Love this Way. Be in harmony with yourself, those with whom you are intimate, and Mother Earth. Sustainability has a sexy side. The birds do it, the bees do it, and sometimes, yes, even trees intertwine to remind us of the enduring power of love.

Thursday is now poetry day for Modern Love, the juxtaposition of Eros, sensuality, knowledge and practicum. If you’d like to contribute an original poem or something you found in the nook of an old book, as I did this piece, send it to me at modernlovemuse at yahoo dot com.

Soulfully yours, Tinamarie

Tinamarie is an occasional poet and writer for several acclaimed websites. You can find her at twitter and Facebook, or send her a private message at modernlovemuse @ yahoo dot com.

©2010-2011 www.TinamarieBernard.com; PARTIAL reposts only permitted with link back to original article.

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Polyamory, Monogamy and the Evolution of Love

There’s a deliberation going on in the sex-positive community, and sadly, it underscores just how much work needs to be done to advance the concept of sexual freedom. I’m speaking of polyamory vs. monogamy and the question of whether one form of sexualove relating is more ‘advanced’ than another.  Continue reading

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